If you were born in the last 100 years, and chances are you were, then you grew up with the idea that if a boy or girl treats you in a bad way, it’s because they like you, and if a woman says “no” to you, what she actually means is “yes.”
Let’s face it. How many times have we seen or heard a little girl complaining to her parents that a boy in her class pulls her hair? Or how many times have we seen or heard a little boy complaining to his parents that a girl in his class makes fun of him?
We’ve seen it on TV. We’ve read it in books. We even see it closely with our families.
And the parent’s response 90 percent of the time is, “He/she likes you. That’s why they bother you.”
Then, as we get older and start dating, or at least having natural needs, if you know what I mean, we keep the idea that the meaner a woman is with a man, the more interested he will be.
And the more a woman rejects and says “no” to a man, the more interested she is because she is just “haciendose del rogar” which translated to English means, “She is just playing hard to get.”
But in reality, chances are if a woman says “no” to you multiple times, it’s because she actually means “no.” And if a man is being mean to you, chances are he is just a jerk and not interested in you, obviously.
With Spring Break around the corner, I can’t help but remember how many times I’ve read about women being raped during that season and how many times I’ve read about men defending themselves by saying that even though she was really, really, really drunk–she actually wanted it. And even though she said “no” while being sober, she actually meant “yes” and she wanted it.
Women, let’s make it clear for men. “No” just means no. There is no “secret code” to decipher about women’s language.
Men, don’t let your smaller head dominate your big head. She is not playing hard to get.
She’s just not that into you.
